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April Interviews













4/1 Jennifer Chow, Mimi Lee Gets A Clue
4/8 John Gaspard
4/15 Art Taylor, The Boy Detective & The Summer of '74
4/22 Maggie Toussaint, Seas the Day
4/29 Grace Topping, Staging Wars


Saturday Guest Bloggers
4/4 Sasscer Hill
4/18 Jackie Green


WWK Bloggers:
4/11 Paula Gail Benson
4/25 Kait Carson

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WWK is proud of our four Agatha nominees. Kaye George for Best Short Story--not her first time to be nominated, Connie Berry and Grace Topping for Best First Mystery Novel (wish they weren't having to compete against each other), and Annette Dashofy for Best Contemporary Novel--her fifth nomination!


Congratulations to our writers for the following publications:

Look for Kaye George and Margaret S. Hamilton's short stories in the new Mid-Century Murder by Darkhouse Books. Kaye's story is "Life and Death on the Road" and Margaret's story is titled "4BR/3.5BA Contemporary."


Kaye George's first novel in the Vintage Sweets mystery series, Revenge is Sweet, will be released on March 10th. Look for the interview here on March 11.


Grace Topping's second novel in Laura Bishop staging series, Staging Wars, will be released by Henery Press on April 28th. Look for the interview here on April 29th.


Don't miss Shari Randall's "The Queen of Christmas" available on at Amazon. Shari's holiday story for WWK was too long so she published it for our enjoyment. It's available for 99 cents or on Kindle Unlimited for free!


KM Rockwood's "The Society" and "To Die A Free Man; the Story of Joseph Bowers" are included in the BOULD Awards Anthology, which was released on November 19. KM won second place with a cash prize for "The Society." Congratulations, KM! Kaye George's "Meeting on the Funicular" is also in this anthology, which can be bought for 99 cents on Kindle until November 30.


Shari Randall will be writing again for St. Martin's, perhaps under a pseudonym. We look forward to reading Shari's Ice Cream Shop Mystery series debuting next year. Congratulations, Shari!

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Tuesday, June 4, 2019

Adulting by Carla Damron


Sometimes I really wish I was a functional adult. Here I am, 62 years old, still grappling with the question “when will I be a real grown-up?” In my twenties, I understood why I didn’t have my act together. I was still a kid, right? In my thirties, I did a bit of adulting: bought my first house (in a VERY questionable neighborhood). Took a stronger interest in my social work career and received a few promotions. Took up writing as a serious hobby.

When I reached my forties, I did two VERY adult things; I got married AND I PUBLISHED MY FIRST BOOK! One would think I almost had a clue, right? Not so much. My husband did his best to coax me into maturity, introducing me to foreign concepts like “joint checking” and “shared closet.” Of course, he continued to add to my Slinky collection so I’m not sure he was 100% invested in my growing up.

It gradually started to occur to me that my development seemed a bit stilted. I didn’t FEEL grown up. I mean, surely there would come a point when I would GET IT. I would know who I was and where I needed to put my focus. Other people my age had their act together. Why didn’t I?

In my fifties, I tried faking it.  I succeeded, too. My FOURTH novel got published. I did tons of speaking engagements for both professions: novelist and social worker. I like to think I actually sounded like I knew what I was talking about! Of course, I didn’t—not really. How could I when I wasn’t even a real adult yet?

I held on to a vague hope that it would happen one day: I would wake up and it would all be clear. THIS is who I am. THIS is why I am here.  I’d walk with more confidence and smile knowingly at my fellow real adults. I’d start wearing heels and carry a briefcase that didn’t look like a middle-schooler’s knapsack. I’d suddenly be skinny and never have a bad hair day. Everyone would look up to me and think, “Wow. She’s really got it together!”

But now I’m in my sixties and it ain’t happened yet. My husband and I are meeting with a financial planner who keeps tossing around words like "fixed index annuity" and “margins,” and I no longer even pretend I know what he’s talking about: “Dumb it down, Keith! Dumb it down!”

I’m accepting that I’ll never take that final step to adulthood. THIS is actually who I am: STILL NOT A GROWN-UP.  

My only option is to make the most of it. When you think about it, MANY writers are not good at adulting, and it’s what we write about: our struggles. All the ways we feel vulnerable and flawed. About what it’s like to be a poser around people who aren’t. (Are there people who aren’t?)

If I’m being honest, these are the writers I enjoy reading. I connect with their character’s pain and take vicarious pleasure when they succeed. And these are the characters I love to write. If I do it well, it’s because I’m right there with them. Their vulnerability is frighteningly close to my own, so I dive in to explore it with them.  Maybe in my journey with them, I’ll find my way to become a functional adult.

Then again, maybe I don’t want to be.

Where do you stand on the issue of adulting?










5 comments:

Jim Jackson said...

I think the difficulty with your self-assessment is the definition of "functioning adult." Others decide how well one is "functioning." We know our incompetencies and often dwell on them. Others see what we have accomplished and don't expect perfection. Perhaps it is that dichotomy that leads us to feel like we're faking it.

That said by the guy with a minor in psychology from nearly 50 years ago and exactly zero experience in counseling others, so take the comment with a bucketful of salt.

KM Rockwood said...

When we had a retirement party for my mother-in-law, she said her only real regret was that she still didn't know what she wanted to be when she grew up.

Margaret S. Hamilton said...

I've become invisible to anyone under 50. Little do they realize I'm eavesdropping, picking up little gems to use in my writing. And taking careful notes on clothes, make-up, tattoos and piercings.

carla said...

Jim, I've come to think functional is overrated. KM, your mo-in-law is me!
Margaret, dying to know about your tattoos...

Warren Bull said...

I am totally in favor of adulting. My wife and I know just who we want to adopt us to be the adult in the family.