The
most important life event happened with my birth as it does with all of us. I
was named Gloria because my mother admired movie stars with that name, but I
like to think my dad went along with the name because he was religious and
thought of his first born child as a glory to God. At least I believe that, and
in my egocentric way, every Christmas when the refrain of Christmas carols
resound with my name, I like to think the whole church is singing my glory. Of
course, there were the birthday celebrations – not elaborate in my family. Mom
fixed whatever meal the birthday child wanted and there were a few gifts. The
only one I remember was a green parakeet named Petey. Today I receive cards and
a few gifts on or somewhere around my birthday and my sister-in-law and sisters
take me out to lunch. I’m perfectly happy with that. After all my only
accomplishment is living another year.
Then
there were the graduation events. My high school graduation included a cake and a
few relatives coming with cards and money. Certainly nothing like the high
school graduation events put on today. When I graduated from college later in
life, my parents and siblings took me to dinner, and my kids put on a party for
me with a lot of close friends and family coming. I can’t remember anything when I got my
Master’s degree, but we probably went out for dinner.
A
wedding is always an important event. I had the white gown – borrowed from an
aunt, flowers, cake, reception in a small hall and food prepared by an aunt and
uncle. Another uncle took snapshots with his camera. My father-in-law paid for
a band that played mostly polkas. The wedding was preceded by a shower at an
aunt’s home, a modest house so the guest list was small. Of course, there were
cards and gifts for the wedding (3 electric skillets) and many best wishes and
congratulations. But thinking back, what major accomplishment was getting
married? So I got a man. Big deal. So did almost everyone else.
In
a little over three years, the children started coming. Believe me, that was a
life changing event with four in less than five years. Of course, I always
loved and wanted children so I was happy with each one. Again the cards and
gifts of congratulations came, but having children is no great accomplishment,
although raising them well is something to be proud of. And I am proud of my children.
Teaching
third grade was both rewarding, very time consuming and at times difficult.. After I’d been teaching for 15 years, I received the Portage County
Elementary School Teacher of the Year Award. I was both honored and embarrassed
by the award because there were teachers in my small school who I felt were
just as qualified or even more so for the award, and I knew there had to be
hundreds of other teachers in the county just as deserving. There was a banquet
that also honored the junior high, high school and college recipients of the
award. My family, friends and some I taught with were there. I had to give a
speech – my first ever in front of a microphone. The person preceding me was
tall and I’m rather short, and I didn’t know I had to adjust the microphone to
my height,so only the people sitting at tables close to the stage heard my
speech. Oh
well, it probably wasn’t that good anyway. I will say when the banner in my
school came down at my request and things got back to normal, I was relieved.
When
I retired, my kids again had a celebration for me in a banquet room at a
restaurant. The only gifts I wanted were stones. I didn’t want anyone to spend
money on something for me because I’d quit teaching. I’m a gardener and use
stones throughout my gardens. My sister-in-law went to the house my parents had
lived in before they died and asked the owners, if they’d be willing to let her
get a stone from a flower bed where my dad put every stone he’d brought home
from his vacations labeled with the place he got it. I do the same thing so stones were enough to make me happy.
This past Sunday was a very important life event for me - a book launch and signing of my first book, The Blue Rose. This was honoring something I'd worked at for at least 12 years when I started writing it under a different name. It included numerous revisions, a name change, editing, sending out query letters and receiving rejections. It also involved getting critique partners to read and make comments, taking writing classes both in person and online, going to numerous writing and mystery conferences and learning all I could about writing mysteries and the world of publishing. I joined local and online writing groups. But most important of all I was always writing, writing, writing. In addition to The Blue Rose, I wrote two more in the series, a middle-grade book, poetry and numerous short stories, some published, and I started writing for this blog a year ago.
I
worked hard planning for the launch and worried few would come. I’d already
sold some of my books here and there and received positive feedback from those
who read them, but still I worried about not many people coming that day. It
had appeared in a short blurb in The Tribune, and a larger one about it with my
picture in the Champion Times, a free every other week paper, and I’d put up a
notice at a local grocery store where almost everyone goes at least once a
week, and at my local post office.
Sunday
morning I was awake by 4:00 a.m. and out of bed by 4:30 making more sandwiches
in case more showed up than expected. I went over my lists again and when it
became light I hauled everything out to my car until it was so filled there was
barely room for my daughter-in-law, Pam, and my daughter, Sue, when I picked
them up to head for my church where I’d reserved a room. We were there by 11:00
making coffee, decorating, putting food out. It was scheduled for12:30, but at
noon when Mass let out, people started filing in.
I had five large tables set
up with blue table cloths, blue silk rose flower centerpieces, and eight chairs
around each for guests to sit at. As the day progressed, the tables were mostly
filled. Some who came at noon or shortly after stayed until the end. I was kept
so busy greeting, hugging, signing and posing for pictures, I didn’t have time
to eat until almost the end, and even then it was only a few bites. I couldn’t
believe all the praise I was getting. People I’d graduated from high school
with and only saw at five year reunions showed up. People I went to church with
but didn’t know well came.
And,
of course, family members came as well as many of my book club members from
both book clubs and writer’s groups, too. My son came with Ellie, his four year
old granddaughter, and they gave me a bouquet including three large blue roses.
A reporter from Champion Times came to take my picture, waited around for an
interview and finally had to come back at the end because I always had people
around me. There were some who brought gifts, too. I sold 43 books and signed books
some people had already bought from Amazon, and I got phone calls and e-mails afterwards from those who couldn’t come, but still want a book.
So
how did I feel about this event? Elated, grateful, happy, all the superlatives
there are to describe it. One of the best feelings was seeing so many people
sitting around laughing, talking with friends, getting reacquainted with people
they once knew, or meeting new people.
But most of all, I was on a euphoric high that my baby, The Blue Rose, was finally out and being
honored. That people were impressed with what I’d done. After years of going to
mystery writer conferences and meeting authors, for the first time I had people
impressed with what I’d done, and saw me as a real author, too.