Recently,
I read several articles and saw a piece on the Today show referencing Marie
Kondo’s “spark of joy” Konmari decluttering technique. From the interview with
Jenna Bush Hager about how to clean her daughter’s room, I gleaned, without
actually reading either of Kondo’s books, The
Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up – The Japanese Art of Decluttering and
Organizing or Spark Joy: An
Illustrated Master Class on the Art or Organizing and Tidying Up, that one
should gather all items by category, drop the clothing or objects on the floor
in a pile, pick each one up, and keep the item only if it sparks joy. If one feels
guilty about never having worn or hardly ever used an object that is being held,
one should thank it for the joy it gave in the past or for teaching one what
doesn’t work for its holder, and then toss it.
Although
my entire house needs decluttering, which would be in line with Kondo’s requirement
that the purge of clothing or whatever not be isolated to a single space, I
decided to try a modification of her concept when my standalone computer
crashed on the Friday of Passover/Easter weekend. While the technician kept me
on the phone as he reinstalled, via remote control of my computer, every
program I ever downloaded or purchased, I started with my desk. During the
hours he worked, I was amazed how I filled a garbage can with things I
previously thought I needed.Computer fixed, I realized I was hooked on purging. Contrary to Kondo’s directive, I addressed only my closet. From blouses to black tie attire, I spent six hours holding every piece and contemplating how it made me feel. If it sparked joy, it stayed. If it didn’t, it was gone. I filled five bags of blouses, skirts, pants, suits, and pocketbooks to donate to a local charity.
As my husband helped me load the bags in my trunk, I realized both my modified decluttering technique and Kondo’s is very much like the essential rule of revision recommended for writers – when you write, you must be willing to cut your darlings. Words, when drafted, originally may have seemed beautiful, but often shouldn’t be kept in the final piece. When you revise, how do you make the determination whether your darling words spark joy in you or should be thanked and deleted?
If words move the plot forward, they stay. Otherwise, they end up in a recycling file for a future project.
ReplyDeleteAgree, but it is so hard! Some days, I like them all.... but I have to be a big girl and use the technique.
ReplyDeleteI come from good New England stock: you know, the kind of people who build an extension on the barn to save things that might possibly be used some day, maybe. And who knows what is in the first three sections of the barn since it’s so cluttered only a child could fit in the spaces.
ReplyDeleteThat said, I have found pleasure in providing some of my stuff to others for their enjoyment when I haven’t used it in forever.
When I set myself to work to de-clutter, am always amazed at some of the things I own. I face the fact that someone, sometime, deliberately acquired this stuff. What were we thinking?
ReplyDeleteI've been decluttering these past few months, ever since I had my house painted—and that included the closets. I discover there's always more clothing, etc. to get rid of. I'll delutter my WIP when I've finished writing it.
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