If you are interested in blogging or want to promote your book, please contact E. B. Davis at writerswhokill@gmail.com.


Here are the upcoming WWK interviews for the month of July!

July 4th Christopher Huang, A Gentleman's Murder

July 11th V. M. Burns, The Plot Is Murder

July 18th Edith Maxwell (Maddie Day), Death Over Easy

July 25th Shari Randall, Against The Claw


Our July Saturday Guest Blogger Schedule: 7/7--Mary Feliz, 7/14--Annie Hogsett, 7/21--Margaret S. Hamilton, 7/28--Kait Carson.

Our special bloggers for the fifth Monday and Tuesday of July--Kaye George and Paula Gail Benson.


Please welcome two new members to WWK--Annette Dashofy, who will blog on alternative Sundays with Jim Jackson, and Nancy Eady, who will blog on every fourth Monday. Thanks for blogging with us Annette and Nancy!


Congratulations to our writers for the following publications:

Annette Dashofy's Uneasy Prey was released in March. It is the sixth Zoe Chambers Mystery. The seventh, Cry Wolf, will be released on September 18th. Look for E. B. Davis's interview with Annette on September 19th.

Carla Damron's quirky short story, "Subplot", was published in the Spring edition of The Offbeat Literary Journal. You can find it here: http://offbeat.msu.edu/volume-18-spring-2018/


Tina Whittle's sixth Tai Randolph mystery, Necessary Ends, debuts on April 3, 2018. Look for it here. Tina was nominated for a Derringer Award for her novelette, "Trouble Like A Freight Train Coming." We're all crossing our fingers for her.

James M. Jackson's Empty Promises, the next in the Seamus McCree mystery series (5th), was published on April 3, 2018. Purchase links are here. He's working on Seamus McCree #6 (False Bottom)


Dark Sister, a poetry collection, is Linda Rodriguez's tenth published book. It's available for sale here:


Shari Randall's "Pets" will be included in Chesapeake Crimes: Fur, Feathers, and Felonies anthology, which will be published in 2018. In the same anthology "Rasputin," KM Rockwood's short story, will also be published. Her short story "Goldie" will be published in the Busted anthology, which will be released by Level Best Books on April 25th.


Shari Randall's second Lobster Shack Mystery, Against the Claw, will be available in July 31, 2018.

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Friday, July 10, 2015

THE PERILS OF COMPETENCE

                                                           The Perils of Competence


I have long believed that you should use caution in showing your skills even when you enjoy whatever it is that makes you stand out in your particular area.  Once you demonstrate your abilities, you can expect to be asked to apply them over and over again.  As a therapist, I tended to get caseloads full of clients other therapists did not want to work with.    As much as you want to help people, you cannot do it if you neglect yourself.  For example, people with frequent suicidal ideation require a level of attention and care that can drain energy from therapists.  Having more than one or two people with suicidal ideation in a caseload is an invitation to burn out. 

You might think that mental health professionals would be more patient and understanding of people with behaviors that wear on others.  You would, of course, be wrong.  I’ve had clients who had a genius for pissing people off.  Although, there are people who enjoy what is clinically known as “stirring the shit,” dealing with them was largely a matter of recognizing what they were up to and removing the payoff they desired. The very most irritating people acted out of anxiety.  They knew very well that what they did annoyed people.  The harder they tried to relate, the more annoying they became.  Staying empathic was not easy.

If you have skills, people will notice. When that happens you don’t want to convey the impression that what you do is easy.  I did a number of psychological evaluations for a co-worker who was a social worker.  Once he said, “I don’t know if I should thank you or the test.”  I don’t remember my response.  I should have retrieved the testing materials and carried them into his office.  Then I should have said, “You can do the next evaluation.  The instructions come with the tests.”
COMPETENC

What is your experience with competence?

4 comments:

James Montgomery Jackson said...

If you are going to fess up to competence, one you need to have or or quickly develop is the ability to say no.

~ Jim

Gloria Alden said...

Warren, like Jim said, you need to have the ability to say no. Unfortunately, I find that difficult to do, but I am getting better at it, but it's still hard to turn people down when they ask for your help. Could it be the first child syndrome where I felt somewhat responsible for my younger siblings?

KM Rockwood said...

This is akin to the saying, "When you need something done quickly and correctly, look for a busy person to do it."

Kara Cerise said...

I've found that being too competent at work usually leads to a promotion accompanied by long hours and lots of stress.