If you are interested in blogging or want to promote your book, please contact E. B. Davis at writerswhokill@gmail.com

Our July author interviews: Ellen Byerrum (7/5), Day of the Dark anthology authors (7/12 and 7/19), and Nancy Cole Silverman (7/26).

Saturday Guest Bloggers in July: 7/1--Fran Stewart, and 7/8--Nancy Cole Silverman. WWK Saturday bloggers write on 7/15--Margaret S. Hamilton, 7/22--Kait Carson, and 7/29--E. B. Davis.


“May 16, 2017 – The Women’s Fiction Writers Association (WFWA) today announced the finalists of the second annual Star Award, given to authors of published women’s fiction. Six finalists were chosen in two categories, General and Outstanding Debut. The winners of the Star Award will be announced at the WFWA Retreat in Albuquerque, New Mexico on September 23, 2017.”

In the general category, WWK’s Carla Damron was one of three finalist for her novel, The Stone Necklace. Go to Carladamron.com for more information. Congratulations, Carla!

Congratulations to our writers for the following publications:

Warren Bull's new Lincoln mystery, Abraham Lincoln In Court & Campaign has been released. Look for the Kindle version on February 3.

Shari Randall's "Pets" will be included in Chesapeake Crimes: Fur, Feathers, and Felonies anthology, which will be published in 2018. In the same anthology "Rasputin," KM Rockwood's short story, will also be published. Her short story "Goldie" will be published in the Busted anthology, which will be released by Level Best Books on April 25th.

In addition, our prolific KM will have the following shorts published as well: "Sight Unseen" in Fish Out of Water, Guppie (SinC) anthology, just released, and "Making Tracks" in Passport to Murder, Bouchercon anthology, October 2017.

Margaret S. Hamilton's short story, "Once a Kappa" was published as a finalist in the Southern Writer's Magazine annual short story contest issue. Mysterical-E published her "Double Crust Corpse" in the Fall 2016 issue. "Baby Killer" will appear in the 2017 solar eclipse anthology Day of the Dark to be published this summer prior to the eclipse in August.

Linda Rodriquez has two pending book publications. Plotting the Character-Driven Novel will be released by Scapegoat Press on November 29th. Every Family Doubt, the fourth Skeet Bannion mystery, is scheduled for release on October, 18, 2017. Look for the interview by E. B. Davis here on that date!

James M. Jackson's 4th book in the Seamus McCree series, Doubtful Relations, is now available. His novella "Low Tide at Tybee" appears February 7 as part of Lowcountry Crimes: Four Novellas, which is available for order.

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Friday, July 10, 2015

THE PERILS OF COMPETENCE

                                                           The Perils of Competence


I have long believed that you should use caution in showing your skills even when you enjoy whatever it is that makes you stand out in your particular area.  Once you demonstrate your abilities, you can expect to be asked to apply them over and over again.  As a therapist, I tended to get caseloads full of clients other therapists did not want to work with.    As much as you want to help people, you cannot do it if you neglect yourself.  For example, people with frequent suicidal ideation require a level of attention and care that can drain energy from therapists.  Having more than one or two people with suicidal ideation in a caseload is an invitation to burn out. 

You might think that mental health professionals would be more patient and understanding of people with behaviors that wear on others.  You would, of course, be wrong.  I’ve had clients who had a genius for pissing people off.  Although, there are people who enjoy what is clinically known as “stirring the shit,” dealing with them was largely a matter of recognizing what they were up to and removing the payoff they desired. The very most irritating people acted out of anxiety.  They knew very well that what they did annoyed people.  The harder they tried to relate, the more annoying they became.  Staying empathic was not easy.

If you have skills, people will notice. When that happens you don’t want to convey the impression that what you do is easy.  I did a number of psychological evaluations for a co-worker who was a social worker.  Once he said, “I don’t know if I should thank you or the test.”  I don’t remember my response.  I should have retrieved the testing materials and carried them into his office.  Then I should have said, “You can do the next evaluation.  The instructions come with the tests.”
COMPETENC

What is your experience with competence?

4 comments:

James Montgomery Jackson said...

If you are going to fess up to competence, one you need to have or or quickly develop is the ability to say no.

~ Jim

Gloria Alden said...

Warren, like Jim said, you need to have the ability to say no. Unfortunately, I find that difficult to do, but I am getting better at it, but it's still hard to turn people down when they ask for your help. Could it be the first child syndrome where I felt somewhat responsible for my younger siblings?

KM Rockwood said...

This is akin to the saying, "When you need something done quickly and correctly, look for a busy person to do it."

Kara Cerise said...

I've found that being too competent at work usually leads to a promotion accompanied by long hours and lots of stress.