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7/11 Mark Dressler
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7/4 Valerie Burns
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KM Rockwood's "Burning Desire," and Paula Gail Benson's "Living One's Own Truth," have been published in the anthology Heartbreaks & Half-truths. Congratulations to all of the WWK writers.

Please join Margaret S. Hamilton's Kings River Life podcast of her short story "Busted at the Book Sale" here. Congratulations, Margaret!

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Grace Topping's second novel in Laura Bishop staging series, Staging Wars, was released by Henery Press on April 28th. Look for the interview here from April 29th.

Kaye George's second novel in the Vintage Sweets mystery series, Deadly Sweet Tooth, was released on June 2. Look for the interview here on June 10.

Annette Dashofy's 10th Zoe Chambers mystery, Til Death, will be released on June 16th. Look for the interview here on June 17.


Monday, February 18, 2019

Taking a Mental Health Day

Taking a Mental Health Day by Debra H. Goldstein
I’m tired. I’ve spent the last few months writing blogs, giving interviews, doing podcasts, and talking to anyone who will listen about my new Kensington cozy, One Taste Too Many. The book launched and I’ve been thrilled and grateful for the response people have had to One Taste Too Many, but I’m tired.

Everyone tells me it’s a good tired, but my body and brain don’t quite agree. Well, my brain partially does, but even it’s telling me it is time for one of my personal insanity or mental health days.

For me an insanity or mental health day is very simple – I may or may not get out of bed; I may or may not get dressed; I usually write checks and pay bills because I find that to be mindless and relaxing; the TV will be turned on and off as the day progresses, but only by using a remote control; I’ll catch up on the magazines piled on my dresser or immerse myself in a book I’ve been meaning to
read; I always do a load or two of laundry because I associate doing laundry during daylight hours as being a treat; and, I’ll probably make a meal of either pizza or ice cream or splurge and have both. What I won’t do during one of these days is anything that resembles work or requires me to think about a work-related activity.

That means, I won’t write. I won’t think about what project I might want to take on next. I won’t worry about the fact I still can’t work Photoshop Elements well enough to update my website. I won’t fret about numbers, due dates, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or anything on my to-do list as President of the Guppy Chapter of Sisters in Crime or the Southeast Chapter of Mystery Writers of America.

An insanity or mental health day belongs to me. Throughout my life, I’ve learned to be selfish about my “insanity day,” because if I fail to adhere to its rules, my batteries won’t recharge, and I’ll continue running like a rat in a maze without ever reaching the cheese. When I take one of these days, I wonder why I didn’t do it sooner or why I don’t do it more often – but, I know my answer to that: too much to do and too little time to do it.
What about you? Do you ever take an insanity or mental health day? Do you wait too long? What do you do to recharge yourself?


Jim Jackson said...

Vacations are not gratuitous grants of time off by a beneficent employer. They are a recognition by the employer that over the whole year they will get more out of you if you take some time off. As self-employed, it's hard to remember them employer side of that equation: granting the employee time off will provide more output in the long run.

And, you should do it before you are totally dragging. If you wait that long, it's too late for maximum productivity.

So says the math guy with an MBA and an earlier minor in psychology.

Margaret S. Hamilton said...

Sometimes, I let a day's worth of errands pile up, figure out the fastest way to accomplish all of them, and do it. No writing. I usually take Saturdays and Sunday mornings off for yard chores.

Grace Topping said...

You are smart to listen to your body and follow through with a day of being good to yourself. I don't do the often, but when I do, it's because I've absolutely reached the point of fatigue. So enjoy your day--in fact, take two or three. You've earned them.

Kait said...

Guilty of waiting too long and then I need three in a row. Why three? Well, my tip off is when I cannot get out of bed one day but I'm not sick - just flat out exhausted. Then I give myself the grant of the next two days as free days. I do exactly what brings me joy. I'm good to myself (and by extension the others in my life) but there's nothing gotta do about it. By the end of the third day, I'm refreshed and ready to take up the harness again.

Enjoy your day off, Debra - You've earned it!

Warren Bull said...

It's helpful to have another passion. Mine is singing. I can get so caught up in that world that my fatigue in writing gets forgotten.

Debra H. Goldstein said...

Jim, you are so right about why employees are made to take their vacation days. Studies show those that don't have lesser productivity in the long run. Margaret, I like the balance you've achieved...Kait, you do it like I do...same with Grace... to the point we have to stop. Now Warren, if I could only sing.

Vicki Batman, sassy writer of funny fiction said...

Good for you! I try not to do writing stuff on the weekends. Makes for a crazy Monday, but that's okay as Mondays are supposed to be.

Donnell Ann Bell said...

Debra, ever since I returned home. My mom's in rehab. When does taking a mental health day turn into procrastination for a writer! You are amazing with all you have on your plate. Mental health day well deserved.

Donnell Ann Bell said...

Debra, ever since I returned home. My mom's in rehab. When does taking a mental health day turn into procrastination for a writer! You are amazing with all you have on your plate. Mental health day well deserved.

Gloria Alden said...

Loved reading this today, Debra because I'm taking one, too, sitting in my nesting chair reading a book I've long wanted to read and listening to the radio in the background with my beautiful tri-colored collie Maggie sleeping on the rug near me. Of course even on my taking a break day there are things I must do like head to the barn to feed them or let them out into their pasture. Then there's my barn cat who needs fed as well as a hen. Unfortunately, I only have one hen left. Then I have to walk back to the woods near my son's house to feed his peacock and my peahen before coming back home and heading for the newspaper box to bring in today's paper to read. Of course, my Maggie goes with me when I head for the barn so I am getting a little exercise. Today it's been snowing and I had to get a towel and wipe her down. Other than fixing lunch and calling my two sisters to find out what day they're coming to visit, I've been reading the newspaper and started a new book to read and checked my emails.

Lazy Gloria today.

Shari Randall said...

You are my hero, Debra! I was lying in bed reading this - just wish I had someone to bring me breakfast so I could stay there all day. Well done!

Holly said...

Thank you for the reminder. I went down to the beach and sat in the sand (as cold as it was) and stared at the ocean. The sounds (or lack thereof), the scents, and fresh air. Behind me, I could see snow on the San Bernardino mountains. In front of me, Santa Catalina. Perspective is everything.

Keenan Powell said...

Brava! I take mental health days too. Sometimes, I'll get some writing in and then nap. Other times, just nap. I love naps. Check out for a couple of hours and come back to a different, albeit dustier, world. (Am looking at the dust in my home office right now.)

Debra H. Goldstein said...

Keenan...ignore the dust. BTW, congrats on all the nominations. Holly - love the idea of sitting on the sand. I am a beach girl though I love looking at it, rain or shine, from a temperature controlled environment. Shari - lying in bed; reading in bed.... heaven. If you find someone to bring you breakfast, send him/her my way. My hubby is no better in the kitchen than I am. Gloria - even the best mental health day has some chores, but reading that book and loving your dog make all the difference . Donnell Ann, it's tough when you are balancing caretaking with every day activities.... there's an emotional drain that can't be accounted for. Vicki --- taking weekends off is a balance. I tend to go the other way...partially because that was when I did a lot of my writing while I was on working...nad partially that's when life is quietest around our house.

KM Rockwood said...

Thanks for the post!

I know I need a mental health day, but I haven't taken one yet. I'm way overdue.

My family responsibilities are my top priority, and right now I can't really take a break from them. The people who usually help me out are having their own health crises right now. And a dear friend's mother just died, meaning I should be stepping up there, since I know my support will make a difference.

Soon I hope things will return to more normal (whatever that is) and the first thing I will do is schedule myself some down time.

We all need that.

Susan said...

I have always been amazed at all you get accomplished. And well. You need to also take a day off from the news and social media. That means you may read this comment, smile, but don’t answer it. Enjoy your time off.

Sally Handley said...

I, for one, am thrilled that you are taking a day to yourself now, so that you are totally re-charged for your visit to the Upstate South Carolina SinC Chapter on March 7th. I loved this blog because I agree with you completely. Taking a step back when you're feeling overwhelmed and doing whatever it takes to re-set and re-charge is a superpower, in my opinion. Thanks for the reminder. So looking forward to seeing you in a few weeks!