The
New Year is an optimistic time filled with possibilities; it’s the perfect time
to form new and useful habits. According to a Reader’s Digest article the most
impactful habit is to make your bed every morning.
The
theory is that making your bed is a keystone habit. That one habit creates
structure and becomes a catalyst for other good behaviors and habits. Making
your bed daily is correlated with better productivity, happiness and even helps
you stick to a budget.
I’ll
confess that I’m not a morning person and can’t talk to anyone until after 10:00
am, but I do make my bed every morning and have for years. I’ve perfected my
waking routine. First, I smack the snooze button a few (okay, five) times, sit
up and pull the sheet and comforter taut. Then I fall out of bed, stumble over
to the other side and straighten the covers. Finished!
But
what would happen if I actually took the time to carefully place those designer
pillows on the bed? You know--the ones that most people, including me, have
stuffed in the closet. Would this simple act propel me to better writing
productivity? Or, would I just get annoyed? I had to find out.
I
began this experiment on the auspicious date of 12/12/12. I thought about
waiting until the New Year but decided that the date was too unique to pass up.
That evening a family member remarked, “Oh, look, you made the bed.” Seriously? I thought I had been making the bed
for years. What else have I been doing incompletely?
I read
that it takes twenty-one consecutive days for a new habit to stick. That means
if I miss a day, I have to begin again with day one. At the start of my experiment
I was a consistent bed maker including the designer, dust-collecting pillows. But,
I skipped day thirteen due to a horde of houseguests arriving in the wee hours
of the morning. So, on what would have been day fourteen, I had to start over.
My
hope is that this newly formed bed-making-with-pillows habit will pave the way
for more meaningful habits that become an automatic part of my life. One habit
that I hope sticks is to write at least 1,000 words OR edit for two hours a day,
five days a week as prescribed in Carolyn See’s, Making a Literary Life. Currently, I might write all day but then nothing
for the next few days. I’m aiming for discipline and consistency to keep my
momentum.
Are
you working on new habits this year? Or, ditching unhelpful ones?
The flywheel approach to a central habit is interesting. Back in 1987 I finally gave up smoking. Much to my surprise I discovered I no longer chewed my nails (which I had been doing since a child—long before I started smoking). I had to find nail clippers, having had no use of them for all the years I could remember. I haven’t taken up smoking again nor have I had any interest in chewing my nails.
ReplyDeleteObviously, smoking cessation somehow triggered the secession of nail biting as well. I suppose I could test this by taking up smoking again and see if I start chawing on my nails, but I guess we’ll just have to leave that experiment to doubt.
~ Jim
That's fantastic, Jim! My sister stopped smoking a few years ago. It wasn't easy for her (understatement) and it led to her giving up another bad habit. I agree that there must be some kind of domino effect happening but it's probably better not to test that theory.
ReplyDeleteYes, I've heard that it takes three weeks to establish new habits. But how long does it take to break bad ones?
ReplyDeletePS--I always make my bed or I sleep disheveled.
Good question, E.B. My guess is that it depends on the person and the habit. I read that it's important to replace a bad habit with a positive one so as not to trade one bad habit for another.
ReplyDeleteMy youngest daughter gave up smoking and has never started it again. She doesn't even like being around smokers. My son quit for more than a year, but after he had his motorcycle accident and was off work for some time, he took it up again.
ReplyDeleteAs for making my bed, I do it everyday without fail unless I'm sick which is rather rare. I'm not that fastidious about the rest of my house although I wish I were sometimes. Like tomorrow when a member of my book club is coming for lunch and to buy a book. Somehow, I have to find time to clean the house with all the other must do's I have to do today.
My bed looks lie, well, an unmade bed. I do try to write regularly.
ReplyDeleteGloria, I'm sure you're so busy with your book launch that it's difficult to find time to finish everything on your To Do list.
ReplyDeleteMy copy of The Blue Rose just arrived and I can't wait to read it!
I need to remember about the 21 days. Informative blog!
ReplyDeleteWarren, your writing habits seem to work perfectly for you. You don't need to make the bed.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Carla! I don't know why it takes 21 days for a habit to stick but it seems to work.