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WWK welcomes Welcome Wednesday author interview guests--Edith Maxwell (writing as Maddie Day) 11/4, Elizabeth Duncan 11/11, and J. A. Hennrickus (writing as Julianne Holmes) 11/25, to our blog. Polly Iyer is filling in for us on 11/18 due to a delayed publication. Thanks, Polly! Our guest bloggers this month are--Sam Bohrman (11/7) and Pat Gulley (11/14) in addition to our steadfast Saturday bloggers, Sam Morton (11/21), and Kait Carson (11/28).

Kait's blog will be our last in 2015. Warren Bull will introduce the holiday season on 11/29. Gloria Alden, KM Rockwood, Shari Randall, E. B. Davis, and Paula Gail Benson will present holiday shorts among the holidays. Please look at our 2015 Guest Calendar for December dates. We will resume blogging on 1/3/16.

Maria Barbo at HarperCollins's Katherine Tegen Books has bought a debut YA fantasy by Sarah Henning, tentatively titled Heartless and pitched as the never-before-told origin story of the sea witch from Hans Christian Andersen's "The Little Mermaid" told in the vein of Wicked – from the villainess's point of view. Publication is set for fall 2017; Rachel Ekstrom at the Irene Goodman Literary Agency did the deal for world rights. Congratulations, Sarah! --Publishers Weekly 11/9/15

Gloria Alden released the sixth book in her Catherine Jewell mystery series. Carnations for Cornelia is available at Amazon. Congratulations, Gloria.

Congratulations to WWK's Carla Damron. Carla's book, The Stone Necklace, will be released on February 2, 2016. Pat Conroy served as Carla's editor on this project. For further information, look on Facebook or Amazon.

Warren Bull's "When Stinking Aliens Take Over Your Planet" appears in the new Whortleberry Press anthology, Strange Mysteries 6. "The Interview" was chosen to appear in the Flash Bang Mysteries anthology. The anthologies are available on Amazon in paper or Kindle formats.

"A Matter of Honor" by Robert Dugoni and Paula Gail Benson will be published in the first Killer Nashville anthology, KILLER NASHVILLE NOIR: COLD BLOODED, released on October 27, 2015.


Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Dealing with Rejection

I'm not afraid of much, but I've feared rejection my whole life.

Logically, I realize that rejection is a part of being a writer; it's something we must all endure on the path to success. But knowing that doesn't lessen the sting any. No matter how many times people tell you that a rejection isn't personal, it's hard not to take it as such when it's happening to you.

It doesn't help that two of the definitions for "reject" in the dictionary are:
  • to discard as useless or unsatisfactory
  • to cast out or eject; vomit
Seriously. "Vomit." I realize that particular definition pertains more to a bodily function than a "no thank you", but it's still a harsh thing to think about.

Maybe it would be easier for me to deal with rejection if I were to view it as simply a difference of opinion: I like my work, but the agent (or reader) doesn't. I realize this is the concept that people try to share when they say "don't take it personally," but that phrase doesn't soften the blow quite like "difference of opinion" does.

I can easily accept opinions that don't mesh with my own; to each his/her own, and all that. So if I start to view a rejection as a mere difference of opinion, maybe that will help lessen the sting. Or will it still hurt because of the inherent need for validation that we all have? Is it the rejection itself that hurts, or is it the way in which the dismissal is delivered? Would my ego feel less bruised if someone explained why they didn't like my book, rather than sending me an impersonal "Thanks, but no thanks", or worse, no reply at all?

Maybe seeing the reasons my work has been refused would help me to understand said rejection better, and grow as a writer. For instance, if the issue is with syntax or grammar, that's information I could use to make the book better. If it's more that someone didn't like my protagonist, I'd be able to decide if I want to change that or not.

Granted, the bitter pill of "no thanks" might not taste that good - no matter what reason was given - but I still think I'd rather know the reasons behind a rejection than to receive some impersonal non-response.


E. B. Davis said...

I think that rejection is hard to take unless you're given a reason for the rejection. Few agents or publishers have the time to give reasons for each submission they receive.

One agent told me she "didn't like my style," which wasn't very helpful because I didn't understand exactly what that meant. I think it was an easy way to reject someone's work without it being stinging. On one hand I'm thankful, but on the other hand it was unhelpful.

But I got a review of a short story I wrote that was extremely helpful. In the review comments, he discussed the plot, talking about plot points that were only his assumptions not was I had written. He clearly hadn't bothered to read the story. It was helpful in that, I disregarded his comments.

Warren Bull said...

As a "recovering" editor and contest judge, I can say that there is never enough time to comment in detail on every submission. And written comments always seem harsher than when the reviewer can control tone of voice and interact verbally. An editor may just be in a bad mood when she/he reads your work or your idea may have already have been used in an already accepted story. Or the editor can make mistakes. I have had many stories accepted by the third or forth editor I've offered them to. Then I think, "Finally, a smart editor."

Gloria Alden said...

I totally relate to that fear of rejection. I know there have to be people out there who don't, but I'm not one of them. Whenever I got a letter - one I'd enclosed with my query letter - or an email from the agent and or publisher I'd queried, I was afraid to open it. Then the horrible let down feeling after I read the rejection. I could never shrug my shoulders and think, "Oh well. It's their loss."

Alyx Morgan said...

Exactly, EB. If they don't like my style, that's fine with me. It's that "difference of opinion" that I can handle.

And I do realize there are just too many manuscripts to be able to fully respond to all of them. I don't know that I'm expecting or even hoping for a change in the system, just lamenting about my fear & working to overcome that.

Alyx Morgan said...

LOL, Warren. It is probably easier to think the editors or agents aren't "smart" when they reject my submission, but for some reason I tend to think their rejection is reflective of my work...that whole "it's easier to believe bad things about yourself" mentality.

Hmmm...something else to work on. :o)

Alyx Morgan said...

I'm with you, Gloria. I'm not quite at the "their loss" stage of rejections yet. My brother once told me that he asked out over 100 girls back in high school, just to help him get over the fear of rejection. He said that by the time the school year was over, he was able to simply shrug any rejection off he received.

So maybe we only have to get over that first 100 rejections...if I can stop myself from crying over each & every one of them. ;o)