Monday, March 29, 2021

The Unexpected Turn by Nancy L. Eady

 For 30 years, I have lived various places between Alexander City, Alabama and Montgomery, Alabama. Unremarkable for some, but for a Navy brat who moved every two to three years until she was 16, miraculous. Also, for 30 years, I have worked at the same building at the same firm. And in spite of such a confined geographical area, we have found jobs in the area that allowed my husband’s career to grow as well. If you had asked me six months ago, I would have said that we would spend the rest of our lives somewhere along this 50-mile stretch of road. Heck, I would have said the same thing last week when I wrote my last post. And I have been actively helping my husband search for a new job since October and praying for new opportunities and vistas for my family. We’ve always found a job for him in this area.

There are drawbacks to certainty. The biggest one for me was eventually retiring in the small town where we live. It’s nice enough, but the hour to two-hour round trip to go to Publix or Home Depot wears you down. I’m not from here, which makes friendship-making harder, especially right now during COVID, especially when coupled with the fact that I drive 45 minutes each way to work, and my husband drives an hour and 20 minutes one way.

There are positives to certainty. I don’t ever expect to love a house the way I love the house we live in. While friendship-making is harder, it’s not impossible and I have good friends here. And the building and people I work with are my home, too.

But, out of the blue, an opportunity has opened in the Birmingham area for my husband, and we are taking it. When the job offer first came, we felt like a dog must feel when he finally catches a car he is chasing. We didn’t know quite what to do with it. I’m still a little shell-shocked, caught somewhere between “Holy crap! I have a lot of stuff to get done,” and “Hot Dog! We’ll finally live in a bigger place.”  Not to mention navigating all the “what-ifs”—what if the house takes months to sell? What if we can’t find a decent house in the new area we can afford? What if our daughter is miserable up there once we move?

There are drawbacks to uncertainty. Worries pop up daily, imagined and real. The sense of continuity you had, before the uncertainty, departs. Familiar things look different. I saw my 15-year-old house one way last week and differently this week. You don’t quite realize how much needs to be done around a house until you get it ready to sell.

There are positives to uncertainty. It galvanizes you into action and tantalizes you with possibilities. Your soul stretches to reach new, unforeseen places. You take the most familiar things around you less for granted.

As a writer, the shift from certainty to uncertainty gives me new insights into my characters. It helps me empathize with my characters as I place them (deliberately, with malice aforethought) in difficult situations. It helps me understand more ways to describe to you, the reader, the feelings my character experiences. It gives me ideas on how characters are going to deal with the situation(s) I have placed them in. And it shows me why I am a sucker for happy endings. I would like nothing better than to end this next (hopefully brief) season of uncertainty with the words,” And they all lived happily ever after!”


  1. Having lived on the same property all my life and in the same house on it for almost 40 years, I dream of and cringe at the idea of relocating when my husband retires. Good luck with your move!

  2. Having won the contest at my 45th high school reunion for the person who had lived in the most places since high school (by a lot) I don't know how living in one area for decades feels -- let alone one property, like Annette.

    I do know about moving, though, and the only good move is a completed move. Hope yours goes well, Nancy.

  3. Oh, Nancy, all the best in the new location and with the new jobs! Yes, it’s an upheaval, but it’s also an adventure. I’m rooting for you and your family. And for that happy ever after ending I know you’ll find.

  4. Nancy, you've got this. Everything will fall into place. We've moved six times (I'm not including changing apartments in the same city), and bought and sold houses three times.

    Our kids experienced one big, life-changing move which helped them consider colleges a far from home: NE Ohio to Atlanta for the older two, and Atlanta to Cincinnati for the youngest (who was a freshman in HS).

    My husband hit Cincinnati first. When I arrived, he gave me a tour of the local library, grocery store, and closest gas station, saving the best for last: a source of fresh coffee beans.

  5. Go, Nancy! Both figuratively and literally. Good luck and happy landing in your next adventure.

  6. I have a hard time moving--all that time and effort to prepare things and the HUGE change. On the other hand, I love visiting new places.

    Hoping for a very happy ending for you and your family, Nancy, on this next journey!