I overheard a woman say something that I took as a wonderful kernel of inspiration. She said "When an author receives a rejection slip s/he tends to make up all sorts of reasons why their work was rejected. What they need to do is stop second guessing the 'why', and just accept that the piece wasn't right for the editor or publisher."
My attention snared (don't worry, the person on my chair still enjoyed a wonderfully relaxing massage), I continued to listen while the people gathered around this woman refused to accept what she'd said. One comment I heard was, "But how can we grow as an author without feedback?"
This last question was valid, but it missed the point she was trying to convey. In this day and age--with so many editors and agents being bombarded with manuscripts--it's nearly impossible to respond with effective feedback to everyone who sends in their work. I've read editor's blogs where even they lament about it and wish they could extend pointers to everyone. It's just not the way the system works right now, and may never work that way again, if it ever did.
Which is why I found her comment so inspirational. Having been raised with psychology, I'm always on the lookout for ways to improve my psyche, understand myself better, and become less insecure. It was quite an eye opener to hear this woman put so succinctly what I've been doing. In fact, when I heard her say "stop second guessing the why," I had one of those D'oh! moments where you realize your actions aren't what you really want to be doing. I know others have said similar things before, but something about her phraseology made me finally see it for the self-destructive choice that it is.
I’m sure her words will swim around my head when I receive my next rejection slip. Hopefully, I will heed the message, accept the response, and not second guess the why.