tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post4908392470832859388..comments2024-03-29T11:42:44.511-04:00Comments on Writers Who Kill: SOUL MATESJim Jacksonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15090252530437277145noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-74503641169421754282011-01-29T13:04:23.608-05:002011-01-29T13:04:23.608-05:00What interesting comments! Lots of stories here. I...What interesting comments! Lots of stories here. I was just going to say I really need to fall for the heroes in my romantic suspense novels. I have one that just isn't doing it for me, and the book keeps floundering. I've changed him so many times he's a stranger. Maybe I need to pick a face from something and see if he talks to me. Pauline, let us know how you do with yours.Ellis Vidlerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11918353154644739285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-71947440686132947212011-01-29T13:02:51.680-05:002011-01-29T13:02:51.680-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Ellis Vidlerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11918353154644739285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-74856476319247499342011-01-27T20:18:03.427-05:002011-01-27T20:18:03.427-05:00I just confirmed with the light of my life that sh...I just confirmed with the light of my life that she is my soul mate. It may be a mutually shared delusion but who cares?Warren Bullhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07789270258599769915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-52866252816911381192011-01-27T19:36:26.162-05:002011-01-27T19:36:26.162-05:00Well, Warren, was that a rhetorical question? No o...Well, Warren, was that a rhetorical question? No one's speakingPauline Alldredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00847008019331163905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-678069223912704892011-01-27T19:34:34.297-05:002011-01-27T19:34:34.297-05:00LOL! Warren-We'll have to send you a few Valen...LOL! Warren-We'll have to send you a few Valentine's when the day roll around.E. B. Davishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16746747050278597888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-37357316381614291292011-01-27T16:57:41.698-05:002011-01-27T16:57:41.698-05:00All day I've been expecting comments like, &qu...All day I've been expecting comments like, "Gee, Warren, There must be lots of women who would be your soul mate." (if I were interested, which I am not.)<br />Either I am being a little too open on this blog or the readers have exceptional insight.Warren Bullhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07789270258599769915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-29565858574403963992011-01-27T15:01:01.804-05:002011-01-27T15:01:01.804-05:00towriteistowrite - I'd never heard that before...towriteistowrite - I'd never heard that before about a soul mate being so much like you that you had to work on your own issues. Of course, you could deny your own issues and only see them in the other.Pauline Alldredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00847008019331163905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-62554618937386438232011-01-27T14:59:10.854-05:002011-01-27T14:59:10.854-05:00Allene and Lynn, my husband died young and I felt ...Allene and Lynn, my husband died young and I felt I'd lost so much. Sometimes I had only good memories to get me through daily tasks. As you say, Elaine, husband and friend isn't bad.<br /><br />Hi Polly, I'm hoping to create a male who brings out another side of my protagonist.Pauline Alldredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00847008019331163905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-28577071308844221742011-01-27T14:33:27.519-05:002011-01-27T14:33:27.519-05:00I met my husband in a writing practice group. We w...I met my husband in a writing practice group. We were both in out late forties, never married. In our early fifties, we married. It was romantic, but we were old enough to know we would need more than romance for a successful relationship.<br /><br />I subscribe to the view espoused by medical intuitive Caroline Myss: a soul mate is the person who is so much like you that he drives you crazy and thus requires you to work on your own issues.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-15587542846142120022011-01-27T13:37:41.775-05:002011-01-27T13:37:41.775-05:00I don't really believe in soul mates. Relatio...I don't really believe in soul mates. Relationships take a lot of work, individual soul searching, marital fights, etc. until you work everything through and come out the other side. Good thing no one said it would be easy. I met my husband when he was 11 and I was 15. Ten years later, we started dating and then married. After twenty-seven years of marriage, I still can't call him soul mate, but I can call him husband and friend. And that's not bad!E. B. Davishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16746747050278597888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-18701583863475079232011-01-27T13:02:15.548-05:002011-01-27T13:02:15.548-05:00Allene -- that is beautiful and having watched my ...Allene -- that is beautiful and having watched my parents who will celebrate 49 years this summer ... yes they do love and support each other (though I am sure they would like to have seen that cliff at some point) they are a great example to the rest of us!Lynn Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11441343758291717960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-91175649691854321282011-01-27T12:30:23.450-05:002011-01-27T12:30:23.450-05:00Sometimes soul mates come in disguise. The man I h...Sometimes soul mates come in disguise. The man I have been married to for 50 years is not the one I envisioned in my romantic youth. And there have been times, during those 50 years, that I would have gleefully pushed him off a cliff. I have come to realize that he is the one that challenges me, that pushes me to be who I am, never lets me give up on my dreams. He ignites my passion in more ways than the bedroom. The time is arriving when one of us won't be there for morning coffee. I am sure that if it is he I will have lived my life with my soul mate - I would hope he would think the same.Allenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03576057017173691278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-79101563181556174902011-01-27T12:20:31.733-05:002011-01-27T12:20:31.733-05:00I do write romance and suspense, and I fall in lov...I do write romance and suspense, and I fall in love with my male characters every time. I wouldn't be happy with them if I didn't. I think if they were men in my real life, I'd have to say they weren't the trouble. But we write fiction, don't we? The whole point is to create someone who isn't really real.Polly Iyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05729656119287702191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-61266670125333457982011-01-27T11:59:50.790-05:002011-01-27T11:59:50.790-05:00Wow, twenty-three years! I agree, soul mates are a...Wow, twenty-three years! I agree, soul mates are as accepting as mothers but more able to work on making the best changes to habits and personality.Pauline Alldredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00847008019331163905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-91494930742115298372011-01-27T11:53:17.610-05:002011-01-27T11:53:17.610-05:00I met my soul mate back in high school. However, ...I met my soul mate back in high school. However, neither of us realized how perfect we were for each other until 23 years later. We each had other lives & loves, & only reconnected within the last couple of years.<br /><br />Yes, looks & interests are one aspect of attraction, but I think the sign of a true soul mate is someone who sees every facet of you (including the "marred" bits) & loves you because of & in spite of them. Even better is if they're willing to help you work out the rough bits in your psyche.<br /><br />I agree with Dee though, your hero will present himself to you & everything will click.<br /><br />Good luck, Pauline.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-59143737577793628462011-01-27T11:42:14.877-05:002011-01-27T11:42:14.877-05:00Hi Lynn, I liked Spock. I haven't followed the...Hi Lynn, I liked Spock. I haven't followed the X-men. I'll have to check out Wolverine. My husband wasn't like my teenage idols but he did resemble heroes I read about in my thirties and forties.Pauline Alldredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00847008019331163905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-5610171107222974852011-01-27T11:38:09.932-05:002011-01-27T11:38:09.932-05:00oops Worf from ST:NG -- where was my editor when I...oops Worf from ST:NG -- where was my editor when I needed her!Lynn Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11441343758291717960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-9343625846332172752011-01-27T11:37:13.459-05:002011-01-27T11:37:13.459-05:00Well when I was a youth I liked Spock from Star Tr...Well when I was a youth I liked Spock from Star Trek, and Apollo from Battlestar Galactica, Vincent from the TV Show "Beauty and the Beast" and Work from Star Trek: Next Generation. When I finally left fiction and found my husband -- he had aspects of all these characters ... unfortunately he died ... now I have to include Wolverine from X-men -- nearly immortal! well at least he heals quickly!Lynn Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11441343758291717960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-54703633749953833902011-01-27T10:48:58.478-05:002011-01-27T10:48:58.478-05:00Dee, I think you're right about soul mates. Wh...Dee, I think you're right about soul mates. When I was younger and studying history, I used to think figures in the past spoke to me.<br /><br />And Warren, isn't it great when you realize at least one person finds you special? As the saying goes, there's no accounting for taste.Pauline Alldredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00847008019331163905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-70092019962317436242011-01-27T09:39:32.254-05:002011-01-27T09:39:32.254-05:00I'm definitely spoken for, not that I would me...I'm definitely spoken for, not that I would meet anybody's standards except, hers. I had a niece whose boyfriend had a shaved head, tattoos on his arms and multiple earrings. She agonized, "What can't people treat him like everybody else?" I did not reply, recognizing that the question was rhetoricalWarren Bullhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07789270258599769915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-75459054659354612202011-01-27T09:25:46.895-05:002011-01-27T09:25:46.895-05:00I found mine years ago. But I believe we have more...I found mine years ago. But I believe we have more than one soul mate. Doesn't have to be a romantic soul mate--could be a relative or a good friend.<br />As for your character--he'll just show up in your head one day and you'll know who he is!<br />DeeDee Hendershot Gatrellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11315751626223107417noreply@blogger.com