tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post2613481781978923280..comments2024-03-28T12:01:31.049-04:00Comments on Writers Who Kill: Cutting Yourself Some SlackJim Jacksonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15090252530437277145noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-31417826617435718982023-06-05T22:32:51.374-04:002023-06-05T22:32:51.374-04:00Margaret, this move is all for the better and the ...Margaret, this move is all for the better and the best. Ben has a fabulous new job. It's a larger house--I will actually have an office once again (yay, me). And the college town that we have moved to is a lovely place to live with the bonus of having my youngest son a couple of minutes away from us. So this is a total win for us, just as soon as all of this packing and moving and unpacking crap is done.Linda Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913741596693442469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-82157983115492671892023-06-05T22:30:01.646-04:002023-06-05T22:30:01.646-04:00Kait, we've made the move into the new house, ...Kait, we've made the move into the new house, but only living room seating dining table and kitchen supplies. My husband had to start his new job today, so we needed to be in here by now. The movers won't be able to bring the rest of our heavy furniture until the end of the month and in the meantime my husband and my son's will be packing up and bringing our thousands of books my tons of fiber art and quilting supplies and all of the flotsam and jetsam of too long lives. Fortunately, this house is larger than the house we are leaving---although nowhere near as large as the big old house we downsized from 6 years ago. Also, this house is fully accessible for me. I can get into this house and out of it and around inside it all by myself without help, which is a terrific change for the better.Linda Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913741596693442469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-17645399735715848772023-06-05T09:08:38.865-04:002023-06-05T09:08:38.865-04:00Good luck with your move! Looking forward to readi...Good luck with your move! Looking forward to reading all about it.Margaret S. Hamiltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07979191318652199350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-17069329465610621302023-06-05T08:45:25.946-04:002023-06-05T08:45:25.946-04:00All the best with your move! Looking forward to he...All the best with your move! Looking forward to hearing more about it. <br /><br />There are some very valuable lessons in this blog. Hard to learn ones. How is it we can feel like we're in our 20s in our thoughts while our bodies go out of their way to enforce reality upon us? Hugs.Kaithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07758348842858993203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-87126850691905904482021-05-05T13:15:53.054-04:002021-05-05T13:15:53.054-04:00Debra, I remember when we were downsizing and I we...Debra, I remember when we were downsizing and I went through old papers from when I still worked at the university,I marveled at all I accomplished in a day back before the lupus and fibromyalgia forced me to leave--and the me that marveled was the me I grieve for now. It is indeed a continuous process of loss physically but gain in knowledge and wisdom. A trade-off.Linda Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913741596693442469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-46168329087858901182021-05-05T10:17:48.386-04:002021-05-05T10:17:48.386-04:00We're never what we are, but the evolution is ...We're never what we are, but the evolution is the best we can be at the moment and must be embraced as such..... besides, you've come so far!Debra H. Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17533446284471717884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-54941780149941796182021-05-04T13:24:36.824-04:002021-05-04T13:24:36.824-04:00Jennifer, I think you're right, but I have to ...Jennifer, I think you're right, but I have to admit I'm still working on finding that sense of empowerment.Linda Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913741596693442469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-854856780162476002021-05-04T12:42:20.487-04:002021-05-04T12:42:20.487-04:00A post that rings so true, Linda. Thank you for sh...A post that rings so true, Linda. Thank you for sharing. We can only do the best we can at the moment. Also, recognizing our realities can be empowering. Here's to you and moving forward!Jennifer J. Chowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14161188960541932911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-64717747182860293862021-05-03T17:14:50.072-04:002021-05-03T17:14:50.072-04:00Shari, I love that Sandberg quote!Shari, I love that Sandberg quote!Linda Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913741596693442469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-29166901729619676742021-05-03T17:14:11.450-04:002021-05-03T17:14:11.450-04:00And doesn't that just suck, Marilyn?And doesn't that just suck, Marilyn?Linda Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913741596693442469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-70327903408941798042021-05-03T11:45:17.507-04:002021-05-03T11:45:17.507-04:00Dear Linda, People pleaser here, too. Leaning to s...Dear Linda, People pleaser here, too. Leaning to say no is a skill that has taken me years to develop. Thank you for this reminder that it's not selfish to use our limited energy and time for ourselves. It's necessary. One of my teachers had this quote from Carl Sandberg on the wall "Time is the most valuable coin in your life. You and you alone will determine how that coin will be spent. Be careful that you do not let other people spend it for you.”Shari Randallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16425493627354028820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-29066501151224695632021-05-03T10:47:12.933-04:002021-05-03T10:47:12.933-04:00Linda,
You're so wise to recognize when it'...Linda,<br />You're so wise to recognize when it's time to slow down and make fewer demands of yourself. I've had to adjust to the realities of aging and don't ask quite as much of myself as I used to.Marilyn Levinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10424778692932139865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-32844557564621051932021-05-03T10:28:47.195-04:002021-05-03T10:28:47.195-04:00Susan, isn't that the real trick?
Molly, yes!...Susan, isn't that the real trick?<br /><br />Molly, yes! Consistently a work in progress.Linda Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913741596693442469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-53545719569027333062021-05-03T10:26:12.469-04:002021-05-03T10:26:12.469-04:00Such good points you make, Jim.
Margaret, that...Such good points you make, Jim.<br /><br />Margaret, that's such a smart way to handle things.Linda Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913741596693442469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-28569106755525367052021-05-03T10:23:15.429-04:002021-05-03T10:23:15.429-04:00Oh yes, KM! Grieving the person we used to be.Oh yes, KM! Grieving the person we used to be.Linda Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913741596693442469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-30164362792499025562021-05-03T10:21:23.581-04:002021-05-03T10:21:23.581-04:00Annette, I think it is harder for many women since...Annette, I think it is harder for many women since so many of us are socialized to be people pleasers. It's a lesson I keep having to relearn at various points in my life.Linda Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913741596693442469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-8617794727152171152021-05-03T09:24:12.699-04:002021-05-03T09:24:12.699-04:00Dear Linda Not-A-Failure Rodriguez,
I'm glad y...Dear Linda Not-A-Failure Rodriguez,<br />I'm glad you're getting back into things - gently and with an eye on self-care. Sometimes I can say no with confidence, other times I second-guess myself into a cycle that wastes a lot of time. I wonder if I'll ever figure it out? Thanks for a good, thoughtful, hopeful piece.Molly MacRaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07755143318141885327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-34101249348507507122021-05-03T08:41:37.934-04:002021-05-03T08:41:37.934-04:00Very heartfelt post, Linda, and solid advice. Now,...Very heartfelt post, Linda, and solid advice. Now, if we can just do it. Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14080938779828043023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-73879350747969430782021-05-03T08:37:06.141-04:002021-05-03T08:37:06.141-04:00I do what I can and fall asleep every night, satis...I do what I can and fall asleep every night, satisfied with my progress. Margaret S. Hamiltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07810307017440257313noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-19197264826088505462021-05-03T08:11:40.540-04:002021-05-03T08:11:40.540-04:00Isn't it amazing that YES is 50% longer than N...Isn't it amazing that YES is 50% longer than NO and yet NO is often several hundred percent harder to say?<br /><br />It's a skill to take care of yourself, and I have confidence that you will succeed.<br /><br />Many professionals stop working in their fifties and sixties, while writers often continue working into their seventies and eighties. So the declining energy issue of age and health is likely to affect writers more than ordinary folk.Jim Jacksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15090252530437277145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-15790497188875725022021-05-03T07:16:03.151-04:002021-05-03T07:16:03.151-04:00Your comments are very encouraging.
I, too, am at...Your comments are very encouraging.<br /><br />I, too, am at a point in life where I cannot keep up with my own past expectations, and have to give myself permission to accomplish what I can and be proud of myself rather than lamenting that I can't manage everything I used toKM Rockwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03973749764907859829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-31069573487378934722021-05-03T06:53:38.624-04:002021-05-03T06:53:38.624-04:00Learning to say NO is definitely challenging and y...Learning to say NO is definitely challenging and yet freeing at the same time. It's always a work in progress. Good luck, Linda!Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02755947919433555176noreply@blogger.com