tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post6395211725122667382..comments2024-03-29T10:59:34.918-04:00Comments on Writers Who Kill: Guilt: The Bane of a Writer's Existence? ProbablyJim Jacksonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15090252530437277145noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-26097479363072475072013-07-08T14:35:36.337-04:002013-07-08T14:35:36.337-04:00J.K. Rowling wrote at a tea shop while her infant ...J.K. Rowling wrote at a tea shop while her infant slept.<br />It is never an easy balance. Determined writers make writing happen even if it is squeezed into the cracks in their lives. Warren Bullhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07789270258599769915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-24443721709396968762013-07-08T10:44:22.223-04:002013-07-08T10:44:22.223-04:00I think that's exactly right, Julie. We also t...I think that's exactly right, Julie. We also take him to races that one of us runs to demonstrate the same thing. "See: We're doing what we love! You should, too!"Sarah Henninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06822639126179367121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-39637041122083228852013-07-08T10:10:49.045-04:002013-07-08T10:10:49.045-04:00Oh, yes, the guilt can be overwhelming-a crazy dan...Oh, yes, the guilt can be overwhelming-a crazy dance of balance and tradeoffs. But I like to think I'm setting a positive example for the kiddo by showing him what it takes to work toward a dream without sacrificing family.Julie Tollefsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01579825918764925361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-66778625224122768172013-07-07T20:43:33.513-04:002013-07-07T20:43:33.513-04:00Being retired I do not have guilty feelings about ...Being retired I do not have guilty feelings about writing. In fact, sometimes I have guilty feelings about not writing. Is that progress or sublimation?<br /><br />However, when I worked full-time, I did feel guilty about time I needed to recharge (and being an introvert that meant being by myself).<br /><br />~ Jim<br />Jim Jacksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15090252530437277145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-91899607368108677922013-07-07T15:02:24.468-04:002013-07-07T15:02:24.468-04:00I'm glad you guys agree that the guilt means I...I'm glad you guys agree that the guilt means I care! And I do care, a lot. And if that doesn't mean I'm the fastest writer in the world, who cares? I'd much rather play with my kid for all of a Saturday before sneaking in 1,000 words after his bedtime, than get in a 10,000-word day and miss an entire day of bonding with him.Sarah Henninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06822639126179367121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-13490529862961484652013-07-07T13:36:45.386-04:002013-07-07T13:36:45.386-04:00I have to agree with Gloria - the guilt means you ...I have to agree with Gloria - the guilt means you care! Just remember that you have to take care of yourself so you can be a good mom.<br />And babysitters can be a good thing!Shari Randallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16425493627354028820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-43287744551486799562013-07-07T13:25:04.024-04:002013-07-07T13:25:04.024-04:00Oh, how I remember those days of having little one...Oh, how I remember those days of having little ones (I had 4) lying on the floor outside the bathroom door whining "How much longer are you going to be in there?" when I was trying to read in peace. It doesn't get a lot better when the kids are grown and out of the house, either, Sarah. Then you're supposed to find time for grandchildren or your kids who NEED to talk to you. And if you have siblings and a sizable number of nieces, nephews and cousins by the dozen, there are lots of events they expect you to go to. Add the dog, who right now is bugging me to play, and cats, who want my attention as well as outside critters needing fed plus gardens that lay the guilt trip on me every time I look at them. Yes, I know plants don't speak, but their silence can be the silence of martyrs hoping you'll take the nasty weeds away that are surrounding them. Hang in there, Sarah, your little one will do just fine. The only parent who doesn't feel guilt is the one who doesn't care.Gloria Aldenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13581719606924364447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993649290245605005.post-41335292838971153102013-07-07T01:03:22.610-04:002013-07-07T01:03:22.610-04:00Guilt is tough, usually because it arises out of m...Guilt is tough, usually because it arises out of making a choice. Hard as it is, I tell myself writing has to be the right choice, and writing makes me a better person for handling other responsibilities and being with people. That doesn't always alleviate the guilt, but it helps me feel better about writing. Hope this helps! If not, don't tell me. Can't take the guilt! ;)Paula Gail Bensonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08843350597811462936noreply@blogger.com